Being dominant or submissive isn’t something that is induced into us when we were born. Some people believe that becoming more dominant or even more submissive is not achievable, but even if you’re a dominant from birth on, you still need two things to be a good domme: experience & knowledge. You can certainly learn to dominate your partner with ease and we’re here to tell you how. Follow our easy to follow set of rules and you will be on your way to becoming more dominant and adventurous in the bedroom before you know it.
Initiate
Try kissing your partner when they’re not expecting it. Run your hand up and down his/her thighs to let them know your thoughts. Take them by the hand and lead them somewhere private, then start initiating by taking down their pants. A gentle or less gentle (whatever you prefer) push into the bed does the trick. Biting lips will assert dominance. Start with those easier things and you’ll very soon notice how much fun being dominant can be!
Make yourself heard
Making yourself heard is best initiated by telling your partner you want to try something new. Try to pin his / her arms and tie them to the bed. Have your way with your partner by cuffing their hands behind their back and go down on them for some oral pleasure. Try grabbing his head to go down on you and gently give direction by pulling his hair.
From here on it’s time to take things further and start issuing commands:
Rub my feet, would you?
How about you go get me a drink?
You don’t get to cum until I say so!
These are just a few examples of suggestions & commands that will show your new found dominance.
Discover Yourself
For some people, the above described level of dominance might be enough. Others might want to take things further and perhaps even dominate their partner 24/7. Being dominant doesn’t imply that you necessarily have to be cruel. You’re free to pursue more loving dominant endeavours, for most that will be the preferred way to go. Don’t imitate what dominance should be but rather represent your own version of it.
Set Your Scene
Scene is a common BDSM term and it refers to whatever playtime you and your partner have cooked up. During a scene, you and your partner can make use of specific nicknames; those tend to help to enforce your playtime roles and get you into the right mood. Commonly, your partner would call your Mistress [Insert your name here] or a variation of your actual name during a scene. Some female dominants go by ‘Mommy’ for extra kinky familiarity.
In the end all these terms and plays come down to personal preference, so discover what works best for you.
Stay Safe And Know Your Safewords
In the end it’s vital that you stay safe and respect your partners safe-words. Accidents can happen (trust us we know), so always respect your partners boundaries and enjoy the pleasures of being dominant together!
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